Premature ejaculation is the most insidious sexual disorder II.

My blog "Early ejaculation is the most insidious sexual disorder" in the first part I have by no means listed all the possible causes of premature ejaculation.

Cause of premature ejaculation

Basics: Women's attitudes encourage men to ejaculate early. Sometimes they even put it into words: 'It's OK if you leave early' or 'Do you have much left?'. Sometimes they don't communicate it in this way, but you can sense that they don't want to drag out the bed scene too long. For example, they never initiate, they don't enjoy it, they don't have orgasms, etc.

Again: in many cases, women want men to come quickly because actually they don't want to have sex with him. Nor can someone like intercourse - say a woman - because she doesn't like her current partner. It may be that they liked it when they first met, but after the relationship has stabilised, the partner's appearance changes. He doesn't dare tell her that. Or she does, but he doesn't take it seriously and then she's like, "I'll close my eyes for a minute or two and imagine I'm having sex with Brad Pitt and then it's not so repulsive that my spider-bellied boyfriend looks like a pregnant woman". But what if that minute or two turns into 9-10-20-30-40-40-50-60-120 minutes? Well, then it's hard to keep up the fantasy of thinking about someone else. Or fantasize about another situation during the act. And it's hard to do the whole thing for any length of time.

Test your woman from the start: if she hates sexologists, she may have a problem with sex

So these women get very desperate when their partner comes to see a sexologist.

There are women who hate the sex psychologists, sex therapiststhat even if you don't know them personally, you already have all sorts of negative preconceptions about them. In most cases, this is because the woman has some unresolved sexual problem. Because a woman with a normal sexual interest, even if she has a sexual problem but is aware of it, does not want to hide her problems. She wants a solution. She wants to enjoy life, of which sexuality is an essential component: she is then happy to stumble upon a to a sexologist. Which is not often, let's face it, because there are very few of us.

But a woman whose sexuality has been so damaged that she has been lying to herself - for decades - or who sees her situation as very hopeless, or who doesn't want to hear about sex for whatever reason. Such a woman, if she stumbles into a sex therapist, will feel a visceral hatred for him. It's so easy to spot people who have a good chance of having an okay sex life, or at least a good attitude. And who has a very, very bad attitude, probably because there is a very serious problem lurking in the background.

You who are listening to this, reading this, must not have a bad attitude towards sexuality. You probably want to grow, to learn. And you are right to do so. Keep going, keep moving forward and have a better sex life! Because that's what we're working for sexologiststo improve everyone's sex life. And there is always room for improvement.

Masculinity, femininity, male role, female role

Returning to the premature ejaculation, we see that this is both a male and female problem. Issues of masculinity and femininity also come up, as with many sexual disorders. So when a woman does not desire intercourse and is happy with her quick-fire partner, she may have problems with acceptance, with being accepted, with experiencing femininity. A man who cannot perform in bed, cannot satisfy his partner with intercourse, so with his penis, he cannot actively participate in the woman's sexual pleasure. He may only be able to do so passively, as a second-rate player. Let's say the woman excites her own clitoris, while the man fingers her vagina, so she can finally come. There are masculinity problems here. Not patient, not persistent, like a classic man. So the man doesn't take on the role of his own man. He feels too much of a burden. He finds it difficult. He can't live up to it.

And you may even think that the woman's expectations are too high. That scares him.

Many people are not only afraid of women, many people hate them. This may be at the root of it.

Premature ejaculation versus erectile dysfunction

So there are many reasons for premature ejaculation and I would stress again that erectile dysfunction is a much more straightforward problem in comparison. In many cases, premature ejaculation is a disguise. A disguised problem. And we need to find out what is really behind it.

A man may feel that way - at least many used to feel that way, but it's not easy to feel that way with more self-conscious women now - so the man may feelthat after all he was manly, he did well. Because he had come. So premature ejaculation is not a problem. Erectile dysfunction, on the other hand, is a problem.. But, let's think about it, there is the erectile dysfunctiothe type of the partial impotence, when the penetration occurs, and the tool is bent during the penetration. Why is that worse than when the man comes? After all, practically the same thing happens in the same amount of time. And yet, interestingly enough, the two things are seen as completely different. So if a man loses his erection in the vagina because he has ejaculated, that is accepted by the vast majority. They validate that, they legitimize that. There's no problem with that. But if you have to pull the penis out of the vagina because it's fallen off, that's embarrassing, awkward, and so on. I think it should be the other way around.

After all, what is it like when the premature ejaculation During - and now I ask men to imagine a little bit what it is like for women - a woman is not satisfied. The woman experiences a series of feelings that her pleasure is not so important. The man's own pleasure is what matters most, because he is well off, he is always well off. Because he is always satisfied. In erectile dysfunction, on the other hand, both parties lose. That's why I think it's cleaner. Now this sounds stupid, but erectile dysfunction is more correct than premature ejaculation, where one party behaves - at least his body behaves - as if he were a selfish person. But he may not be selfish at all, he may simply not be in control of his penis. But it is not men I want to empathise with at this stage. They have already been discussed in the previous minutes.

Now for the women's section. How the woman experiences it all. So for the woman it's a slap in the face. So they get her excited, they make her believe that something good is going to happen. Until the desire is quenched, and she's left unsatisfied and frustrated. This is especially upsetting for women who are difficult to excite. And that's the case for a lot of women. So she finally gave in to the idea that this was going to be intercourse, that it was going to be a good world, and in a minute or two it was over. Because the man has had an orgasm. But at least it was good for him. But there are women - I just mentioned the type - who are fine with this: they are like "but it's good, at least he came". But there's another group who don't like it at all and they feel a growing anger towards him.

Why? It's frustration, so if you're being prevented from achieving your goal, we call it frustration. The woman's goal in this case was to be satisfied, or at least, if not satisfied, because she might be orgasm impotent or she's never experienced an orgasm, at least to feel good for at least 10 minutes at least, certainly not a minute or two. So that was his aim and he prevented her from achieving that aim by saying that just when she was getting a bit warmed up or very much warmed up, whoops, it was all over. Because he's pulling his dick out. Or holds it in, but can't get it hard again. So they pulled a string of honey in front of her and finally left her. Now there is, as I mentioned before, the for fast burners is the type where the story ends, so he doesn't care that she stayed that way. That's one.

The other type is the one who does this either to satisfy the woman before penetration, before intercourse, or after intercourse. Yes, but pleasuring a woman with the mouth or with the hand is not the same as pleasuring her with the cock. It's not that hard to imagine. After all, it's not the same for a man to be pleasured by a woman with his hand or mouth. So it makes a difference whether or not satisfaction occurs during intercourse. This is very different. A huge difference. And a woman who is constantly frustrated will become more and more aggressive, because frustration breeds aggression. Not only in sexual situations, but in any situation. A woman who is hindered from achieving her goals will become frustrated. And I repeat, frustration breeds aggression.

Consequence: depending on the type of woman, she may release her anger, her aggression, or she may suppress it and become passive-aggressive: there can be different problems. There may be quarrels, on trumped-up pretexts, but if she is the honest type, she will tell you that because of this. So anything can happen in such a situation.

While if the man has erectile dysfunction, it is easier for the woman to feel sympathy for him. The desire to help. And she feels less cheated, less deceived. So it is essential to understand that while we don't think of premature ejaculation as such a big problem and we think of erectile dysfunction as such, it should actually be the other way round. And maybe that's just my perspective, but let me shed some light on it again with another example. What if I'm right and premature ejaculation is a much more despicable thing than any other sexual problem?

If there is erectile dysfunction or partial impotence, then neither party has done well. So this is not a win-win situation, but a lose-lose situation. But they can make something out of it, they can discuss it honestly. You could even bring out a vibrator. And then the vibrator is inserted into the woman's vagina and she can experience a vaginal orgasm. Or at least she can have an orgasm with something in her vagina. This is very important. To have something in the vagina. Something thicker than the finger of a hand. And then it's a cleaner situation. But when premature ejaculation it's a bit difficult to come up with that, to have a little bit of vibrator. Somehow it's more awkward. Awkward for the woman, awkward for the man. It's also difficult for men because it's well known that once they're satisfied, they become disinterested in sex, in the woman, in her body. Many men fall asleep.

While a erectile dysfunctiothis is not happening. There's still a desire, which is at least an inner desire, even if it's not outwardly visible. The man can still feel a hard-on inside. So it's also very interesting that there is a kind of spiritual excitement in men. Or spiritual erection, so to speak. A spiritual erection. When he's already excited in his mind, in his spirit, but his body doesn't show it.. The penis does not erect or does not erect 100%. But the desire is there, he wants something, he likes his partner's body, his soul, he wants to be with him. And then the two of them can make something out of that, so that erectile dysfunctio he has. Because that's what they talk about. You can't really pretend that nothing happened. So you can make a win-win situation out of it, but not out of premature ejaculation.

And not only because the man loses energy, loses seed, loses vitality after such an ejaculation, but also because women can feel anger, as I said, but there is another feeling that often comes up. And that is disappointment. Disillusionment. That you've come again in one minute! This is not true! And that, that can make a woman's sex drive go down. But there's still an ache inside, a feeling of lack inside the vagina. That, wow, she wishes. But she doesn't want it anymore. Then now feels both a desire for sex and a sense of disgust at the man who has failed to satisfy her.

Understand the pain of the other gender!

I know these are very harsh words, but if we don't understand what's in the mind, in the thoughts, in the head of the person who gets into a situation like this - whichever side they are on - then we won't take it seriously. I have seen many times with couples who have come to me that one or the other party has not taken the problem seriously. I've had couples who by the time they came to me, the high-ranking, reliable woman was already having a nervous breakdown from the constant premature ejaculation, the lack of satisfaction. She had spoken up in time, but he had not taken her complaint seriously. From the moment couples take each other seriously, learn about the other's anguish, suffering, the pain that has been held back for decades, that he may never have told, change begins to happen. There have been countless times when either the man or the woman has been unable to tell their partner how much it hurts. But there have also been times when they haven't even told me because we weren't there yet. There hasn't been a one-to-one consultation yet. We had, say, a six-way right at the beginning. At the beginning of our work together. And then I used to tell you how women usually feel in such cases. What men feel in such cases. And they always nod! And they are so cute! They nod and they look so relieved. How good it is that they didn't have to say it! And then I always see the astonishment of the husband or wife. Is it really so?! Is this how women feel? Is that how men feel? -You too, darling?! But sometimes he doesn't even ask. But when he does, the answer is always yes. And in that way I can make life easier for those who are still unable to talk about such things. And right from the start. Because I say things for them.

I also strive to empower them to do this themselves. After all, the point is that in the end they can all enjoy the pleasures of sex in a liberated, self-indulgent way. And if they need to say certain things - and I am sure they will need to say certain things in the future - then it is good that they learn to do so. Otherwise, many people are afraid to say it because it is unknown territory for them. So there is still a huge amount of prudery. They will be able to do it if they learn that it is possible, that we have the word. In the beginning, there are many times when words have to be agreed upon, which is comfortable and pleasant for all parties. And most of all, if they experience how well their partner reacts, they will then be encouraged and will be able to say something in private if they don't like it or if they miss something.

So I encourage everyone to call a spade a spade. And think about whether premature ejaculation is really premature ejaculation, or something else in the background. And don't delay in seeing a sexologist about it.

A lifetime of premature ejaculation becomes erectile dysfunction

I would also add that it is not possible, or very rare, for a man to maintain a premature ejaculation. I had such a client, so I'm not saying it doesn't exist. I was approached when he was sixty with premature ejaculation. But it is more typical that early ejaculation will sooner or later reveal its true face. You can't keep up the charade any longer and then it becomes a real erectile dysfunction. If now you have premature ejaculation, you should make sure you can control your penis as soon as possible. Because if you don't learn to control it, he can easily control you. Even at 30-40-50 years old. And there is a point at which this process is irreversible. So don't spend decades premature ejaculation, but take the opportunity to finally have some already sex therapists. For a very long time, there were none, this work did not exist. Or quasi unavailable. But now they are. So go for it! Feel free to contact sexologists.

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