Life is unfair, except for one factor, of which it has given everyone an equal share. Life is unfair because we are not born with the same opportunities, we have different possibilities and different levels of support. Our looks are different, our abilities are different, our health is different from the very beginning.
There are many people who are so-called "lucky": their life is easy. Do you have envy? Do you envy others?
The enviable, the born in a shell, the lucky
Who are they? They are the ones who are born into a good family. They get everything they need financially and/or emotionally, they grow up loving. They are easy to socialise with, they thrive in nursery, schools and workplaces. They learn easily, look good, get things right first time: they make mutually rewarding friendships or pleasant superficial acquaintances. They are in a balanced relationship, if that is what they want, but if not, they have a disappointing love and sexual relationship. They choose the profession that suits them first, get into the schools they want and the same will be true at work. They succeed easily and effortlessly in all areas, but if they fail in some, they have an extensive and influential network of contacts to help them out of any difficulties. They also spend their leisure time either usefully or pleasantly. E.g. strenuous, sports, performance or other e.g. PoP are skilled at challenges or enjoy life travelling to far-flung places. Of course, they are loaded with money, their prestige is high. They are appreciated, recognised, respected, healthy. They live in peace with themselves, their families and their environment. They are happy.
But even if only a few of these apply to someone, they may seem lucky or enviable.
If, on the other hand, someone lacks many of the above, or even just one of the most important factors, they may feel unlucky, a loser, a victim of circumstances.
To whom Life has not dealt a hand
This article is for him. Maybe it's for you.
I will not list the opposite of the above: you probably list some of the items yourself as an internal monologue on a daily basis. You are a victim, you may feel like one - which is enough, because feelings can override rational perception of reality - or at least you have a victim mentality.
You ask the question: why is it easier for the other person? Why is it better for them than for me? You start to blame your parents, your circumstances, in the worst case God.
One thing to remember. What Life has been fair to you and everyone else.
He gave us all the same amount of one thing.
Time.
TIME
Time is our most precious treasure.
Yet we do not value TIME enough. Is it because everyone has equal access to it?
Because the TIME has been allocated fairly?
This is something to think about...and now let's move on:
What we do not appreciate, we do not treat very well.
We think it's natural, but it's not.
We don't realise that time is precious, even though the saying goes:
TIME IS MONEY.
Have you ever wondered what that means?
For example, if you have the opportunity to do something, take it, because it is AVAILABLE NOW. Just because it is available now, doesn't mean it will be available later. Because Life is so cruel - or is it fair? What you don't need today, tomorrow it will give to someone else who treats you well. What you can do today, don't put off till tomorrow.
After that, you'll be puffing away in vain. You can hiss, bluster, bully, beg for another chance. It's useless. This ship has sailed. That ship has sailed and it's never coming back.
You took the opportunity for granted when it was there. And he slipped through your fingers like a fish.
Because you didn't take the time.
That is, you didn't take it seriously.
You wasted your time, your precious, precious time on something else. Which didn't do you much good. It hasn't improved you, it hasn't changed you for the better, it hasn't better sex, it has not made your life better.
You sacrificed your precious time for something you shouldn't have. Now you'll regret it: after the rain, it's a wash. And now I'm still only talking about your relationship with yourself, what you use your precious time for your own edification.
THE TIME OF OTHERS
But what about when you get involved with another person?
Will you waste his valuable time too?
Decide as soon as possible whether you want to give or ask for something from the person who mutual will be rewarding for both of you?
Because if not, then be honest: you just want to use him. You want to use him, his positive energy, his love, his knowledge, his helpfulness, his network, his money, his beauty, etc. Anything he has more of than you.
Did you know that one of the greatest sins is time theft? I formulated this a few years ago and I like to say it wherever I can. Some people have already taken it on board. Why is it such a sin to waste time? Because the one you stole it from, you can never give it back to. While you can return the money or anything else tangible, you can never return the valuable wasted time of the person that was needlessly wasted on you. Dead man's kiss.
That's how I put it: stealing time is a greater crime than stealing money, because time cannot be given back.
This topic is quite important, because in foreign languages there is a special term for it: in English: don't waste my time, timewaster, timeabuse, timestealer. In Italian: non perdere il mio tempo, perditempo. In Hungarian it is specifically pronounced: Zeitabrablás.
And robbery is a crime. BTK category.
Even if it's not punishable, take it more seriously. Be good to yourself and be good to others. Respect both your own and others' valuable time. While you have it.
