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Sexologist Action 2023, following last year's successful campaign
Say yes to Thursday! From Thursday to Thursday I'm giving you the gift of time. No need to wait months to get in. Right now ou can get in for a concise, pithy sexology consultation where I'll give you honest feedback and direction. It's important to get to know yourself. Where are you at with your potential? How serious is the condition of your penis? Does it only work when you masturbate, otherwise does it embarrass you in front of women in the form of erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation? Are you no longer aroused by flesh and blood women?
This is a huge opportunity for you..
To sort out your relationship with your partner. To stop whining so much, to stop criticising me for all sorts of little things. Yes, you read that right, it depends on whether you can satisfy him in bed. A woman who is satiated is bread and butter, but a woman who is needy in bed is a harpy who will make your life and the lives of others miserable. Which do you choose?
And if you don't have a woman, it's a great opportunity to embark on your next conquest with increased confidence and stable potential. This is where I can help you now.
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Why can I help you?
I've been a full-time sexologist for 8 years, working around the clock with erectile dysfunction. Okay, that's an exaggeration. Fortunately, not at night.
Wondering how much I know about potency? You can check out my 40 or so articles on erectile dysfunction on my website, listen to my Spotify podcastswatch my youtube videos or my Tik Tok channel. But don't bother yourself. They're not all great. I'm only satisfied with the ones that are edgy, the ones that are revolutionary, the ones that say something new and defy the mainstream. I've brought you one of my best articles on the subject.
I regularly give expert interviews.
I gave one of my best interviews on impotence to Fanny Magazine, which was picked up by Life.hu. I copy it from there.
Expert interview on erectile dysfunction
It is unpleasant, but it is a fact that some men fail in bed. But it's not only embarrassing for him: it also seriously damages her self-esteem.
Research shows that most people are still extremely embarrassed to talk about sex, especially in front of their partner. And there are times when it's absolutely necessary, when, in layman's terms, many people think that erectile dysfunction is caused by a lack of something, by a desire for more, for different, for better - but in reality it's a disease that needs to be treated.
Who is not honest in bed?
Of course, the fact is that the development of an erection is determined by the sex drive and the condition of the blood vessels, but what other reasons may be behind the failure, sexologist Martina Somorjai Somorjai answers the question asked by Fanny magazine.
- At the physical level, circulatory failure is the most common cause. Other leading causes of erectile dysfunction include obesity, sedentary lifestyle, porn addiction, and low testosterone levels - the latter of which cannot usually be resolved by simple testosterone administration. Among diseases, diabetes, high blood pressure - and the medication taken for it - are the 'star'; but it is important to realise that while 5% of erectile dysfunction is due to physical causes, 95% is psychological. This is why potency boosters don't help - especially not after a period of time when you have got used to them. And... instead of the usual patterns, here are a few lines about women's responsibility," Martina stresses.
- The Partial impotence an be caused by a lack of knowledge about women and a lack of knowledge about the current, specific partner. For many mentally healthy men with sufficient EQ, a woman's sense of pleasure in bed is important, not just her own pleasure. Such a man, if he experiences for a long period of time that the woman's pleasure is lacking, that she is unmotivated, that she never initiates, tends to collapse and crawl into his shell. And by the time the woman's desire to make love has been satisfied, the man has lost his appetite. This is a common psychological reason. The failure tolerance is low, the failure coping mechanism does not work, he knows no other coping method than the usual one; he is helpless, i.e. he does not face the problem," explains the expert, and then goes on to make a surprising statement: women do not help because women are not honest in bed..
What do we mean by this? - we ask.
They don't express honestly what they like and don't like. While in other areas of life they are critical, picking on every little thing, in sex they are "fine as they are". Of course, it's a long shot. Some men, out of vanity, don't even question themselves or their skills in bed. They blame the woman for every little upset. The other part suspects that she is unhappy, and may even ask, but never get an honest answer.
The uncrowned crowns of creation
Regardless, bankruptcy is still bankruptcy. So the question is: how does a man feel when he has failed in bed? What goes on in men's minds? How do they cope with this embarrassing situation? Do they dare to talk about it or do they try to sweep the problem under the carpet? God forbid, do they try to shift the blame onto the woman?
- Failing as a man is a feeling that women cannot imagine. Women can't experience what that means to a man. It's a world that collapses. He has no sense of his own right to exist. He doesn't feel like a man, but a man. His self-confidence in all areas, including work, is diminished. Some men benefit from a woman's reassurance, others are further annoyedand perceive it as misunderstanding - rightly so.
A man wants to feel like a man even when he has no partner and won't have one for a while. Even if he is not having sex, he still wants to feel that he is still a man. If he doesn't, he feels terribly desperate. It's very rare that someone who, like other illnesses, trivialises it, like so many others in life. They don't take it seriously for a while. It can be years, even decades, between the first upheavals and the real confrontation. But by then the disorder has already worsened, and recovery will be much harder and slower. Most people face the problem early. And rightly so. The only question is whether the confrontation stops at the level of taking pills, because that only postpones the solution and, in addition, adds two more problems to the initial bad situation, i.e. you will get used to it, at least psychologically, and after a while you will not be able to have sex without a "crutch".
Does age matter?
Older people blame this on age, but in reality we remain potent for the rest of our lives just as dry vagina is a mythso is impotence at 60. Everything is decided in the brain and in the heart and soul and attitude. A young person is obviously more motivated to solve the problem.
This is how a woman gets hurt!
This begs the question: for the woman, isn't it just as much a failure? How much different is it for her?
- For the woman, this is extremely humiliating. In all cases, it almost sends the message: you are not wanted, you are not attractive enough. Which, in the modern morass of the cult of beauty, is tantamount to a death sentence for women. A self-conscious woman who says she has nothing to do with a man's ED is a self-conscious woman," says Martina, who also points out the advice in other women's magazines about whether it's a good idea to wear sexy lingerie or to spice up foreplay - the worst idea. Forbidden, I cannot stress enough. He already feels like a failure, and hopes his wife won't notice. If the woman openly calls him on his waltz, he will be angry or sad, but not erect, It's better to talk about the problem rather than pretend everything is fine. Of course, don't take him to a urologist, it's humiliating for him. Sexual therapy may be a solution, but like many things, men prefer to do it alone. Remember: men are more prudish than women, they are embarrassed to talk to a sexologist in front of their partner.
But what is the solution?
- I heartily recommend the method I have developedwhich allows you to regain your virility and build a solid foundation in 30 days without pills," - says Martina, who also gives you an insight into the details of her method. - The idea is that the man can fix his premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction on his own. Most men are ashamed of this, sweep it under the carpet; women are neurotically freaked out by it. If the man ignores the problem, let the woman be the smart one.
The woman has to help - herself too. If the woman is afraid to talk openly about it, it will be difficult. The woman should stand up for herself, stand up for herself. Practise self-love: instead of putting the man first, comforting him, be firm and intolerant on this issue. If you cannot do otherwise, give him an ultimatum. Remember: cervical cancer is caused by sexual neglect, which may be due to erectile dysfunction, male lack of libido. Don't get to this point, prevent bigger trouble!
Read up, find out if there is a natural, behaviour-based method that can help your partner in a lasting way, and talk to them about it. Neither muscle gymnastics nor time-limited techniques and practices such as going away will solve this permanently.
What is needed is real, effective change and mindset shaping neurobiological re-wiring, women's studies, sex education, some trauma counselling, stress management, increasing resilience, increasing concentration, women's studies, emotional intelligence, activism and resignation. The erection starts in the mind, in the soul, not in bed at 10pm. Urge her on! Your partner will be grateful!
Expert: Martina Somorjai sexologist
