The recipe for success that no Hungarian does

The recipe for success is an act that, with a slight exaggeration, no Hungarian does.

Hungarians are the smartest people in the world

What are we famous for in the world? For being smart. I'm confident to say that Hungarians are the smartest people in the world: we've given the world the most inventors, we have the highest quality of education, we have serious accountability and we can get into the school-leaving exam. Let's not even talk about the state exam. Or an exam. And in my time, you couldn't even get into university if you had passed an entrance exam in a specific subject in your chosen field. Back then, the thresholds were high. But even if you didn't have a school-leaving certificate, you were typically much, much more intelligent, cleverer, better educated, better informed and more intelligent than other people. I have also learned a lot from people with primary school qualifications. There is a general sense of literacy and competence: everyone knows something, can give great suggestions and tips to others. Hungarian is the best adviser. If you have any problem, ask a Hungarian! They will know what to do or at least give you directions.

Hungarians are the most depressed people

But our great intelligence does not help us to be happy. We are also the most depressed. How can this be? What is this huge contradiction? If we're the smartest, why can't we use that in our emotional lives? What is the missing link that could transfer our excellent problem-solving skills to our own emotional lives?

Where do most people fail on the road to success?

Happiness also depends a lot on success, on being able to achieve success. This is usually a long process. But until we reach our goal, we will encounter something that matters: and that will be decisive. It may trigger a certain action and a certain emotion.

It is nothing other than the success of others.

And this is when most Hungarians fail.

This is when it will be tried. Yes, it is a test. God, the Universe, according to whose belief, tests man.

Can you take pleasure in the pleasure of others? What do you feel in your heart? Joy? Genuine "compassion"? Well, well, even the word "compassion" has a negative connotation in our language. In vain does it mean compassion for anything, in practice it means compassion only for tragedies and sadness. It does not mean to rejoice together in joy.

When someone you know achieves success thanks to their hard work and hard work, how do you feel? Genuine joy and enthusiasm? Does it grow a little in your eyes, do you respect them for their achievement? Or do you feel a little bit of the devil in you, and question whether he or she really achieved that outstanding performance on his or her own? Do you wonder if she probably lies well with her boss? Or did he win the job because of his parents/acquaintances/political influence? Or doping? Or do you think he's just lucky?

Every time you judge another's success, you put yourself at a distance from success.

You are miles away from the same type of success he has achieved.

Why does the reaction to the other's success matter?

Why is this so?

What we appreciate, what we look at with a good heart, with joy and happiness, what we are enthusiastic about, what we love, what we praise with our words, wants to come close to us. It wants to be with us. That can be success itself. If you belittle it in yourself, mock it, it doesn't want to come near you. It won't have a good place with you.

I know, it seems strange. It's a spiritual statement. But even if you're friendly with spiritual teachings, you may not agree with me. Because I'm not talking about your success or your joy. I am talking about the other. The one you're really connected to.

Somewhere we are one

Everything is connected and we are not completely separate beings. Even if we live completely separate lives, we live as one. We are part of one big whole. That's why there is a collective unconscious, where all the knowledge of humanity is gathered together.

There is both a collective consciousness and a subconscious. What you put in, you get back.

Are you putting joy in it? Do you see that the other person has succeeded and are you happy about it? You put that feeling in and it stays there. When you want to approach the same goal that Jakab Gipsz achieved, the feeling is activated. It comes out. Your subconscious remembers that you have been close to that achievement and how you felt then. Even if it was only on a feeling level. You felt it. It's true that you got close to the goal through another person when you learned that Jakab had managed to climb the Himalayas, but whatever. Because a feeling is a feeling. And the subconscious can't always tell the difference. It doesn't discriminate who the feeling is generated by. It just becomes familiar to it. And that feeling of familiarity oils the way to relive it. In fact, I go further. It's not even whether you've achieved the goal that matters to the subconscious, but how you feel about it. The feeling overrides everything. Do you like success? Even the other person's success? You can have it too.

Likewise, if you felt anger, resentment, contempt when you heard that Jakab Gipsz had conquered the Himalayas, these feelings will come back to you as your dear acquaintances when you want to climb the mountain. What else can you activate but what is already familiar?

How can you expect to succeed in climbing the mountain when you're starving the one who climbed it before you? Because of the general unity of being, what you feel for the other person when you are moving towards the same goal, you feel for yourself. Plus, at the end of all that envy and hatred, you may even hate the mountain. It is no longer Jakab Gipsz who is to be condemned, but something is wrong with the mountain.

While the mountain stands there, waiting for you to conquer it.

Because the mountain is waiting. For more people to be successful and happy by conquering it. This is what moves the world forward. Setting goals, achieving them and the joy of doing so

Not the flush.

What is the other's success, is yours somewhere

So the next time someone gets promoted, and again it's not you, don't think that Jakab Gipsz is a kiss-ass. Think that the company that promoted Jakab can see him in that position because he fits the bill. Maybe you really aren't qualified, or maybe you belong elsewhere where you'd be more valued. But here and now, the company is happy because it has a leader who meets its expectations - be happy about that. It's a good thing for the company, because it's likely to keep the company prospering, and you'll be living off it. Right?

We could look to a higher purpose, not always just our own interests. The world would be a much better place. Taking the interests of the company into account. The interests of the community.

So what do you do?

Rejoice in the success of Jakab Gipsz. And not just in yourself. Go there and congratulate him. Take action!

Post an open message in the shared staff chat, the climbing group. If you can't do anything else, just squeeze out "Congratulations". It doesn't have to be "from the heart".

So the action you would do well to take if you want to succeed next time is: openly and clearly congratulate the person you know who has succeeded. If you are vibrating at a higher level and you can feel it, then congratulations to you. From the bottom of my heart.

Feeling + action together are embedded in your success.

Feel the pride that another Hungarian has achieved something

Isn't it wonderful to be part of a nation where people achieve so much? Doesn't it make you proud that another Hungarian has put something on the table?

Okay, not you, but since you belong to the same people, chances are you'll be next!

You must have inherited something from our common ancestors.

Unfortunately, not the ability to recognise. We are not good at it. Hungarians are envious. Not only can they not admire the success of others, they cannot even appreciate it. Not to mention respect. Why is the press not full of Hungarians who will win the Nobel Prize in 2023? Why do I not see 1000 congratulatory comments under the few articles published? Why is there no coverage of the everyday heroes who have achieved great things? Why are those who have brought great things to the table invisible? And if I do write about them - because I plan to - how many people will be looking for a scoop?

When I sent out my theory on envy to the PoP Potency Program© testers two years ago, they were very surprised. What does this have to do with it? s it because they don't have a hard-on because they envy the one who does? Yes. That's one reason. Eliminate all envy in your heart. Endeavour to be able to leap with enthusiasm at the success of others. In this way you will create a place for success in your life.

Martina Somorjai - Sexologist