2018. június 20-25-ig előadásokat és workshopokat tartottam az alsóörsi Everness Fesztiválon. "How to seduce me?" "Sex without taboos". "The effects of porn". "Strengthening Relationships".
Some were exclusively for women, some for men, and I thought about couples. The biggest success was definitely the "No taboos - Live a liberated sex life" for both sexes. workshop . One of the secrets was that both sexes were represented. So, when I presented the thinking and secret desires of the men, the men present could back this up to the disbelieving women and vice versa. The Everness Festival is characterised by the fact that 70% of the participants are women: in my case, the ratio was 60-40% in favour of women.
During my lectures, we touched on many taboos, but not everything: we are so surrounded by prohibitions that we could spend a week discussing them.
It's sad to see how many people's lives are ruined by outdated, pointless taboos. Bans and restrictions are necessary, but not all of them. Sexuality itself is particularly full of taboos that make life difficult for couples.
In my work, I find that many misconceptions about sexuality. These misconceptions, combined with known taboos, make set expectations to ourselves and our partner, which impossible to comply. So many people give up and opt for a sexless relationship or singleness instead.
These are the limiting beliefs I exposed at the Everness Festival. If you are aware of them, it will be easier to spot their presence and do something about it. I plan to write a book about this. If you want to be the first to know about the book and get it at a discount, please contact
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Anyone who visited our festival tent during the first few days could see that we had two tents. My enthusiastic helpers spent a long time decorating the front tent. I did not take a photo of it, which I regret in hindsight. We didn't get to enjoy our beautifully decorated tent for long: the midnight storm on the 2nd day smashed and soaked all our work so far. In the middle of the night, the neighbours held the legs of their tent for 3 hours to prevent it from collapsing. The next day we had to start building again: it was like when the parties had to rebuild a broken relationship: we had to act quickly because there was no time to waste. I recommend this to struggling couples: act as soon as possible, because a broken relationship will not rebuild itself, and will only get worse. Sometimes only one can move: that's okay, because it pulls its partner upwards with it. It was the same with us: while I got a minor shock from the tilting tent (we slept there that night...), my partner was steadfast in cleaning up the debris and saving what could be saved.
The next day my volunteers decorated the back tent, which was still intact. I even took a photo of them in the tent:
Meanwhile, I attended a workshop on trauma relief from natural disasters. I had not originally planned such a programme. Who knows, maybe that's why I did it, to find out if there is a special technique specifically for this type of trauma (too).
And what happened in front of our festival tent? My helpers sex-test were filled in by interested parties. This test assesses sexual knowledge. You can register at SZEXQor SI (sexual intelligence). We printed a lot of them, but we didn't have enough, we printed them again and again, they were so popular. After filling them in, we discussed the correct answers with everyone. Sometimes there was a small debate 🙂 Very few people managed to choose the right answers. This shows that we need to be adults too for clarification, sex education.
In fact, I put a few surprises in the test: the first few questions were just statistical, and then came more in-depth, thought-provoking, hard-core questions. The latter were drawn from my own practice as a sexology consultant.
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In addition to Tabu, I also had a performance at the Everness Festival, the How to seduce? , which led the way. It was exclusively for women on how to keep or rekindle the fire in a lasting relationship. Seduction is easy at the beginning of a relationship, but later on it's an art. It's something you have to learn, because our foremothers taught us the opposite. No wonder so many relationships fail and so many betrayals. Those who master these practices, these secret techniques, will experience surprising changes in their partner's (sexual) interest and attention.
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What no one signed up for was the Strengthening Relationships workshop. We regularly found that one member of the couple wanted to attend, but the other one pulled out. One male member of such a couple confessed that he was afraid to come in. So after a while, I took it off the programme and put in its place the male-only presentation, The Effects of Porn. There were several applicants for this one, but I posted it too late. Here I share the results of my porn research, which was completed in May 2018. I have not yet published this, nor my 2016 research on the sex lives of Christian couples. So I can understand those who procrastinate: as you can see, I also procrastinate on certain writing activities. I solemnly promise: If there is a software that correctly annotates based on pen strokes, I will blog every week! Until then, please be content with my infrequent check-ins, and remember: it's much easier to get to me in person than to wait for me to write something online.
