Expert interviews with sex therapist Martina Somorjai 5. Adventure with a foreigner

I am increasingly being asked by the media to give expert interviews to sex therapists on sexual - relationship issues. I will publish some of these. Today, the topic is foreign boyfriends, adventures, adventures with foreigners. Fanny Magazine / Mediaworks article.

An adventure with a foreigner? What could possibly go wrong?

There's a saying that what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas. Vacation adventures can have that feeling, too, because hot encounters don't usually have serious consequences, at least not the kind you'd take home with you.

Latin lovers vs Never without my daughter. Disarming compliments and attention versus unscrupulous put-downs. Men from different cultures can be attractive, whether they come from a slightly or radically different culture. On holiday, of course, women are also more amenable to an adventure, which is fine, and can even lead to a more serious relationship, even more so today than in the past.

Why is different attractive?

In fact, a hot night out does not even require a common spoken language, as some forms of communication are universal. But is it only exoticism and adventure that attracts Hungarian women when they connect with a man from a foreign country? - It is often said that a woman cannot find a suitable partner at home because there is something wrong with her. But this is not true at all, and the figures don't show it. Statistics and my own experience show that In Hungary, there are far fewer available men than women, so the latter have nothing to choose from - quotes sexologist Martina Somorjai from the How to deal with porn addiction from the book... - I've thrown the idea around at times, but apparently many people have realised on their own that it can be worth looking for a foreign partner, either for an adventure or a more permanent relationship.

IThe solution is to look elsewhere, and this is helped not only by more frequent and easier travel, but also by the fact that there are many foreign men at home.

Latin lovers, Greek studs

Hungarian women have long been attracted to southern men, who are indeed much more complimentary and more attentive to the opposite sex.Today, their behaviour has changed a lot. Whereas in the past, because of their more conservative attitudes, the girls there were more protective of their virginity and tourists from elsewhere were more open, it was indeed common for local men to want to get to know them. Meanwhile, things have changed in these countries too, with fewer foreign women being 'pushed' on foreign women by southerners, says sexologist expert... - At the same time, Hungarian men could learn from them how to compliment. Just like the Nordic men, who have more respect for women because of their culture and who, if they get to a lasting relationship, naturally take on some of the housework.

Of course, it doesn't matter what culture a man comes from, because in a Muslim country, for example, women are still unavailable, but men are not exactly reclusive, so they are more easily and willingly seduced by European women.

There could be more

It starts as an adventure, but will it turn into a marriage? That's not uncommon anymore either! - Hungary is an attractive country for many people, so a woman can even come home with her new partner, but it's OK if the relationship is limited to the holiday period. A relaxed, no-holds-barred get-together can be a great memory, and not having the burden of building a future together can make the experience even more enjoyable. And in the meantime, you can experience a different culture and how to treat a woman. And in a foreign environment, the woman is not burdened by the pressures of what others say, as she will be surrounded by strangers for the most part. And don't forget what an enjoyable way to learn a language! - encourages sexologist.

- Of course, it is worth taking the plunge with caution, and always be aware of the cultural and religious background of the man you are looking for. But this is more important if you're looking for a more serious relationship. In this case, it's best to wait at least a year to see him in all seasons, and spend some time together at home and then in his own environment. Because, of course, stereotypes are not true for everyone, but a man of Orthodox Jewish or Muslim origin is unlikely to completely abandon the way of thinking and behaving from which he comes.

So if you want a bit of exoticism, relaxation and fun without obligations, why not? But don't dismiss the idea that you might find your match elsewhere. - If you're open-minded, you're in for a lot of good things, because just because someone is foreign doesn't mean you have to be afraid of them," he says. sexual therapist expert.

Promises of love, expensive disappointments

In some countries with a lower standard of living, local men are happy to court Europeans in exchange for a few days of prosperity.If the woman can afford to pay for all the dinners and activities, that's fine, she can have fun with a young and handsome man. However, asking for money can gradually escalate, and many women will even give large sums of money to their imaginary love - warns Martina Somorjai sex therapist. Unfortunately, women in Europe are also exposed to these situations because of the difficulties of partisanship, as is the case with Drágám, én szeretlek! (HBO Max), a Polish documentary about the relationship between three middle-aged Polish women and young Egyptian men.