This is partly due to ignorance <\/strong>nd partly because the subject is a huge taboo<\/strong>. Partly the media itself <\/strong>is to blame. Because they don't bother to find an expert <\/a>on the subject<\/strong>Let's just say that I don't give interviews to any media. Besides, you are not complete to read all kinds of articles on the subject written by people who are not experts in the field. Shoes from the shoe shop! Sorry, but why do you read the advice of coaches, not psychologists specialising in potential? Why not learn from a Sexologist who is an exper<\/a>t in Potentiality?<\/p>\n\n\n\n After the headwash, the next step is the Credible Position. Why not learn from a Sexologist who is an exper<\/a>t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n For men and women alike, the problem of For men and women alike, the problem of advocacy <\/strong>arises. <\/p>\n\n\n\n This is important because<\/p>\n\n\n\n this is one of the causes of male impotence<\/em>which is very common nowadays. But before we get into that, I'll give you a little bit of the historical and social background. Not so long ago in Hungary, the traditional model of the relationship was dominant: one in which the man was in control, dominant. What he says goes. If he hits the table, the woman and the children are silent. And that's it! There is no room for questions. All this was widely and socially accepted.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Those who have been able to fit into this, without being changed in their souls, are not the ones we are talking about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I present two types of men who are particularly at risk of erectile dysfunction, impotence.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n One type of impotent man with erectile dysfunction is the so-called authoritarian.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n I don't need to introduce this type of man, everyone knows what it's about. Know that in the old days almost all heads of families were like that. Yes, but these oppressive fathers had daughters. You weren't the only one born into a family like that as a boy. You may have had a taste for male hegemony, but know that your sister didn't. Nor the woman you're courting right now.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n I'm talking about the girls who grew up with a father like that.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n It's about those who grew up in a male-dominated family and didn't like it. They saw it being run by their parents. They decided they didn't want that in their own relationship. They certainly wouldn't want a husband\/partner who was domineering and oppressive themselves. The girls who decided they would not take it have now become so outnumbered, so outnumbered, and so empowered that they have virtually reshaped the way we think about relationships.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n The attitudes and attitudes towards relationships have changed a lot thanks to these women who have stood up and said that they will not be suppressed. They will have the same needs, they will open their mouths in the same way. And they won't let the man decide things as a kind of 'domestic tyrant'.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n I might add that male domination sometimes works very well. In those families where the man can lead and rule with love and responsibility, for the good of all. Not as a tyrant. Such leadership is a good thing: it is done out of love and consideration for others. There are many other criteria that a benevolent head of household would have to meet in order for the family to function in a truly healthy way. This traditional set-up works well if the man does it within a normal framework. But it is particularly difficult to keep it within healthy limits. Because if a man - or even a woman - realises that whatever he says will be done at home anyway + he is feared, terrified, he tends to go wild. He will demand more and more. It's very hard to stop at that level, which is still the loving and firmly controlling benevolent level.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n How true this is, is well illustrated in the book \"Lord of the Flies\". But it is not necessary to use a specific book as an example of what happens to people when they are given power. The relationship is a power arena. Only here, the power is not over a community, but over the partner. And that's a lot of power. Let everyone believe that. To have complete control over just one person at that level is a huge sense of power. And it already triggers changes in the personality structure of the person. Of course, this is equally true for women. But it's not by chance that I'm talking about men. It will soon become clear why.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n The prison experiment is known, when half the group was given power. They said \"you are the prison guards and you can do anything to the prisoners\". And then the animal came out of the man. We had to stop this prison experiment because it was getting so violent on a daily basis. Violence reared its head - at all levels.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n In those relationships where the man was in a strong - controlling role, and it suited his personality + he chose a woman who was suited to it -this traditional set-up worked well, and still works today. To this day, there are still relationships where male dominance is perfectly fine and all is well with that. For these manageable, autonomous women, it was convenient not to have to be in control, not to have to make decisions. They were told what to do - so they could submit because it suited them. For them, it was comfortable and relaxed, without responsibility.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n I'm not talking about them. I am talking about the women who said enough is enough: they have their own ideas, their own will. And they have sex needs. They expect it to be good for them. They expect to be aroused before the act and then have an orgasm. They expect to have foreplay and they don't want to be ready for sex at any moment when the man decides. These women have suddenly become a staggering mass of women. So I'm not talking about one or two women, I'm talking about huge masses. The effect of this phenomenon has been that women are now opening their mouths and stating their demands at such a level that it has had an overwhelming effect on men.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Hungary and the whole world has undergone a very important social change. Men had to respond to this. So they could not remain what they had seen from their fathers or grandfathers. They had to adapt to the awakening of WOMEN. In many cases this adaptation was not difficult, because they themselves did not want to be like their fathers or grandfathers. They were not like the table-tapping, dominating type. They thought it was important to be equal in a relationship and not have to decide everything on their own. Instead, they like it when the woman makes decisions and is able to make her own decisions. It was liberating for them to see women taking initiative, responsibility and leadership.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Yes, it is. But what about the men who are crying for a return to the status quo, or are still looking for a woman who can be controlled in a strong way? If they can't find such a woman to \"repress\", then these men's sexuality will be disturbed. Let's say they get together with a more self-conscious woman who opens her mouth. She articulates what she wants. She may even make subtle comments in bed about what she shouldn't do or what she should do differently.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n The authoritarian type of man is blocked. He cannot adapt to it.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Bankrupt in bed<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In fact, he was never really a man, he just couldn't<\/strong>. But now he has been tested and his masculinity has been exposed.<\/em><\/strong> Being masculine means being able to perform in a situation that seems new.<\/p>\n\n\n\n His grandfather would never have failed.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n But he did. Thanks to the Women's Awakening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Should women be angry about this?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Many guys do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n They will be the misogynists.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n They are splashing social media.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n They chant about how awful women are today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In fact, their problem is that women today cannot be oppressed.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n But women are just being themselves. For the first time in history. For the first time, they are not manipulating, they are not controlling from behind, they are telling their partners what they want.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n The other type of man concerned is the one who is not authoritarian, but comfortable. He would have been much more comfortable with this old-style social arrangement. Where he does what he wants because she is the Acceptor. So, with a capital E. So a man may not be authoritarian or controlling. Just simply a comfortable type who wants things to go his way. But not because he's so controlling. But because it's comfortable and pleasant. In this set-up, he doesn't have to take responsibility, he doesn't have to control. But let them do their thing somehow, even if not so forcefully. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Whether we are talking about the authoritarian or the comfortable - the two categories that make up the majority of men - it can be said that these men are intimidated by today's self-conscious women. And it is these men who tend to turn to pornography or other artificial solutions, even prostitution. They prefer to be single. Or they just look for a sex partner. One way or another, their response to social change is, thanks, but I'd rather not have a woman. And the inherent problem.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n In the past, this was the answer for women. When women said they didn't want male hegemony, suddenly there were a lot of single women. Today that has changed. Men have understood that they cannot remain as their ancestors were. That they have to adapt.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Today men also say that they prefer to be alone, but they do not adapt.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Returning to the problem of domination and dominance:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Which is very important to understand - like it or not - but basically all people want to dominate. Even those who don't. So every person wants to have what they want. This is a very important starting point. And if we understand that, then we see the root of a lot of the problems. When it's not what the man wants, it can cause impotence, even an emergency. Or a loss of sex drive. And when it's not what the woman wants, she can also experience a loss of sex drive. Or she starts to take on the victim role that many women do.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n There is a difference between men's and women's ability to advocate. Men's advocacy is usually about what they want. Round pretzel. Direct communication. This is also used by many women today. However, many men cannot tolerate it - that is, they cannot accept overt female dominance - so most women, although they would prefer to use it, do not. Or they do not even want to do it, but involuntarily draw on the centuries-old female toolbox of circumvention and manipulation. The injunctions disguised as requests. By presenting the weak or crying, hysterical woman, she gets what she wants. So otherwise asserting an interest.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n If you cannot reach a healthy consensus, it can lead to sexual problems! Whether it's out of anger or a sense of rejection - which a woman or a man may feel when it's not what he or she wants - they may turn away from each other sexually. And it is not only women who are resentful in this way, but men too. I have seen this more than once. They want to give their bodies away when they feel the other deserves it. And it's the same for men. \"I'm not giving my body to my partner anytime\". There are a lot more emotional men than we think. But it's taboo. It's not true that men don't care and can have sex in any state of mind. A huge misconception! If a man is hurt for some reason, e.g. he feels that he has just not been able to get his way on something that is important to him, something he cannot give in to, he may well not feel like having sex next time. He may not feel like taking the initiative, or if his partner does, he may refuse. With men, you can't do anything with impunity - just as with women. You have to realise that <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n men and women are similar!!! Don't believe that they are different!<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n There are many tyrant women. It used to be like that. There were many families where the woman dominated, despite what I have just outlined. They could oppress the man, it just wasn't made public. Male dominance was more noticeable than female dominance. But you only have to think back to the days when men used to give their wages back to women. And he who has the money has the power<\/em><\/strong>. Let's not forget that in the past, women had much more leeway because of this financial power. After all, they decided how much to spend. Today, that is no longer fashionable. With these old roles and patterns being overturned, there is a lot of confusion in sexuality. Because it is much easier for a man to get an erection and perform the act if he has what he wants<\/strong>. If he pays. If we now understand this one sentence and apply it to women, a lot of women's sexual problems will be solved<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n With this I have given a huge solving key to female sexuality<\/strong>. If the woman has what she wants, her sex life can be fine. I mean, if she has what she wants sexually. In sex therapy, I often get stuck with women: they get blocked for a moment. They claim they don't particularly want anything in bed. They have no desires, fantasies, ideas, fetishes. That's where the sexual therapist comes in: to unravel, to unravel what might be deep down, in the thick of unspoken words. Because there is no such thing as not wanting something. Because man was not born just to survive,<\/strong>, is not just a biological being, but also a sexual being<\/strong>. Part of our sexuality. One may have been so repressed in one's sexuality for so long that one no longer has desires, but everyone has desires. And when a woman's desires surface, it works for the man.<\/p>\n\n\n\n But if you're scared, if you're afraid of women, you can develop erectile dysfunction. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n This is what I wrote about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Are you afraid of women?<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n Do strong, assertive, confident, independent women make you feel insecure?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Or does it bother you that you can't make them out?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n The only thing that can quell fear is knowledge. Knowledge. If you get to know women, if you understand them better, if you interpret the signs, your fear will disappear. We fear only the unknown.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n This is why the PoP Potency Programme\u00a9<\/a> is so valuable, because it includes four women's studies curricula. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nThe authoritarian man<\/u><\/strong><\/u><\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
The comfortable man<\/u><\/strong><\/u><\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n