Az internetes ismerkedések világában gyakori a sikertelen randevúzgatás, a kudarcélmény. Bár szexológus vagyok, nem randiguru, mégis sok esetben tudtam segíteni sikeretlenül ismerkedő fiataloknak. Ilyenkor a szokásos konzultáció mellett megnézem a levelezést, a kiválasztott hölgyek/urak fényképét, és elemzem, mi vezethetett a kudarchoz.
As a randiguru, typically only one consultation I can explain everything I need to know to be successful. This is one of my shortest consultations.
My other shortest consultation
On one occasion, for example, a client was absolutely sure of her partner's devotion, but I found that she was only using him as a leisure partner and didn't mean the word "I love you". My client didn't want to believe it, but after a few days she reported back that she had, and was glad that she hadn't let herself be emotionally exploited any longer. At my suggestion, he began to seek the company of other types of ladies more suited to him, and not only did his erectile dysfunction recover, but his self-confidence was restored.. Since then she has had a balanced relationship with a lady.
The pharmacy magazine says:
Have you ever felt that your love life is a constant series of failures? Don't give in to self-pity just yet!
The only way to remedy the disillusionment caused by dating is - no wonder - more dating. There may still be disappointing ones, but the only way to find the right partner is to keep meeting them. But you can't go into the continuation bitter, hurt, hopeless - these three emotions will discourage the other. All men and women with similar problems need to make an effort not to be bitter, to see the good side of things, even if a new relationship suddenly takes a turn for the worse. Which leads you to notice it in yourself, to heed the wise advice "don't be discouraged".
